Chronic Serial Cheaters: One Will Never Be Enough

Bestselling writer Milan Kundera, author of "The Unbearable Lightness of Being", tells the story of a man who allegedly loved his girlfriend despite his countless adventures with other women. At some point during the story, Kundera embarks in the description of men infidelity and argues that it's possible to identify two different types of men among those who chase many women.

First, we have the man who always goes for the same kind of woman with the hope of finding his "ideal". This is the lyrical cheater, Kundera says. He is not truly searching any bone and flesh woman, because he just loves himself and thinks that only an "ideal" person can measure up to be at his side. Of course, the ideal can never be found, but he has multiple affairs for the sake of his quest. A lyrical man has this romantic aura that seduces many women, who always fall for his excuse that the ideal person hasn't shown up yet, but it could be the next one in the row.

Epic

Then, there is the man who wants to own the infinite variety of women. This is the epic cheater, according to Kundera. For him, women are objects to be collected. The more difficult the woman, the greater is the satisfaction, both in the chase and in the conquest. But once the "item" has been possessed, it loses its lure and becomes just a number in the list.

Epic cheaters don't look for just one type of woman, they try as many as they can and like to grow their collections with the valuable as well as with the weird.

Once attended the objective, they move on quickly. There's no point in delaying. After all, they're not trying to build a relationship with the object of their amorous efforts.

As they don't become emotionally involved with their casual partners, epic cheaters sometimes argue that they love their wives despite their active sex life outside marriage. They don't even stop to think that love is about putting someone else's interests above your own.

Funny enough, it's more difficult to unmask a serial cheater than it is to uncover the once-in-a-lifetime extra-marital affair. This is due to the fact that serial cheaters are masters of deception, always have alibis, take the pains to erase any possible incrimination, and don't even feel a pang of guilt!

That's too bad, because for women it's of great importance to know if a partner is a serial cheater or not. Once-in-a-lifetime extra-marital affairs are hard to swallow. They cause unbearable pain, have to be talked over, examined, meditated upon and maybe, just maybe, they can be forgiven. Serial cheaters should not be forgiven, they only deserve to be forgotten.

Chronic Serial Cheaters: One Will Never Be Enough

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